When we moved to St. Louis in 2013 after we bought our house, I remember my neighbor telling me that they focused on buying a house with a large garage because they had kids, and they wanted to make sure they could fit all the cars in the garage.
I blew it off. That was so long ago that thinking ahead to now was too distant to worry about. Besides, we had moved often enough to not worry that far in the future.
Well, we're still here, and all of our cars are cramped in our driveway and garage, and the truth is...
I love it. Here's why:
My older daughter Katie is a scholarship, varsity cheerleader at her University and she is home. When I woke up this morning and I saw our cramped driveway and garage I really got emotional... why?
Because my entire family is home again, and I get to be reminded of it every morning as soon as I wake up, until she leaves.
We're so blessed because we look for the blessings. We have everything we need and so much more. Wanting more success, happiness, and freedom in life is natural...
But if we overlook the simple joys and blessings of life, nothing will ever be enough.
I love our little family. I'm excited to have a cramped driveway and all of us together again - even if it's just for a few days.
Live soul out!
When we created our nomadic vision, we dreamed of dropping everything at a moment's notice and adjusting our plans on the fly.
We did that!
Angie looked at me and said "What if we leave here (Dauphin Island) early and spend a few days in New Orleans?" My immediate response, without any hesitation at all was...
So we did just that. We've been building our dream business, and now we're beginning to live our dream life!
Everything becomes possible with belief! Live soul out!
Years ago Angie and I had this vision of creating a life and a business which was nomatic to a point. We wanted to build a life and business which would allow us to go wherever we wanted, whenever we wanted. We set out to create that vision.
I hold virtual mastermind calls weekly. I have client phone calls throughout the week. I keep in touch with my team virtually and over the phone. The business is building, our kids are growing up and becoming independent, and as all of this unfolds before our eyes...
We are starting to live that nomadic lifestyle.
We planned to spend a week near Gulf Shores, Alabama at a place called Dauphin Island. Angie and I have decided that we're going to leave here early and go to New Orleans for a few days. New Orleans is our favorite city that we've visited so far, so why not?
You don't have to live the traditional life if you don't want to. Decide who to be, and go be it!
In other words, live soul out!
My commitment to myself is to honor my body, to focus and weaponize my mind, and to understand and be able to be fully present in any emotion. Each day I practice each of these disciplines. I've learned that when I sharpen one, I sharpen them all. When I neglect one, I neglect them all.
Live soul out!
My daughter Katie grew up in a household that was full of conflict, abuse, and combativeness. She learned that when tempers began to flair, she could just escape to her room, close the door, and most of the time the fighting would stay outside her safe place. Of course our arguing was always loud, so she couldn't easily escape the volume, only being in the vicinity. She grew up to 2 chemically addicted parents who abused each other regularly.
We also did our best to program her with our fears. When she was about 5 years old she was riding her bike in our cul-de-sac outside our home in Oregon while I was in the garage. I told her "if a car comes into the cul-de-sac I want you to come home so that you don't get stolen". From that point on she held social fears of being stolen. She very rarely talked to anyone she didn't know.
Katie experienced things that no kid should experience and heard things no kid should hear. She witnessed physical, mental, and emotional abuse and we didn't help her feel safe in the world.
As she was growing up she was conflicted because she didn't want to be home, but she was scared to be in the world. Katie really wanted to feel safe.
Luckily when she was 13 years old our family made some massive shifts in our lives and she began to see a home and family with no conflict, but that didn't make her feel safer - she was already programmed to experience high anxiety and conflict, even when there was no threat.
When she was 17 years old Katie took full control over her own healing and decided to make radical changes in her life. She began to heal physically, mentally, and emotionally while letting go of her painful childhood. She took control and decided not to live and play small.
This year is her Freshman year in college and she is a scholarship varsity cheerleader at a university in Kansas City, MO. She also declared as a Kinesiology major, so she'll be helping others take control of their own health as well. We're very proud of her. Katie has transcended her past. She had every reason to quit but she never did.
Katie is living her dream of being a college student-athlete. Be like Katie. Take charge of your own life, even when every roadblock shows up to stop you.
Talk to you soon!
Ok. I'm going to call you to task. You've connected with my VIP page. You want to see behind the scenes of my life and my business. I love that about you. I really do. I am proud and honored to be part of your journey.
But let me ask you a question...
Why are you here? I'm not asking why you're on this page. I understand that.
Why are you on this planet? Why are you alive? What is the purpose of your life?
I have worked tirelessly to figure this out for myself and to find my internal and external purpose. I'm here to shine a light in the world, and to be a beacon for hope, potential, and possibility. I created and endured decades of pain so that I can make massive changes so that I can show what is really possible in this lifetime.
There is no part of my life that is suffering. I don't have it all figured out, and no one ever will, but I don't live a life of sacrifice - and I get to show YOU what is possible when you commit and go all-in.
But why are YOU here? Let's figure that out. It's a game-changer when you do.
If you need a hand with that, I'd love to be a deeper part of your journey.
Just reach out your hand.
If there's one thing I hope you take away from me in this lifetime it's this:
When your purpose, passion, and profitability collide, you can't lose.
You don't have go where you don't want to go, you don't have to work with who you don't want to work with, and you don't have to do what you don't want to do...
To survive. In fact, we're here to thrive, not survive.
Find what lights up your soul, share that with those who will benefit from it, and watch as your bank account and net worth increase. This life is not about sacrifice and pain. It's about finding out who you really are...
And BEing that person. Find your genius. We all have one.
I topped out at 300 pounds. I was completely out of control physically. I had no discipline in my body and I consumed anything I could. That wasn't exactly how I wanted to show up.
Then something shifted...
I began to lift and run. I began to find the joy in lifting heavy things and hitting the pavement. My body reshaped, but so did my mind. If you're not happy with where you are in your journey, start with taking conscious control of your body. It worked for me.
Once I began to take conscious control of my body, I began to harness the power of my mind and emotions too. But start from where you are - you don't need to kill yourself. Just start small and create some momentum. Each of my workouts is focused on simplicity - creating momentum and increasing my desire to workout the next time.
Start where you are. Your relationship with your body is an indicator of your relationship with everything else.
I've learned some pretty powerful lessons from leading my business. I've learned to break through fear and self-doubt at increasing heights as my business grows. I've learned that I don't need to hide behind a brand and that my name can stand on it's own.
The greatest lesson, however, is that I can only control my intentions, my choices, and my actions. I've learned that I don't control outcomes or timing.
I can do things and they create successful outcomes, then I do the same things and those outcomes shift. I can make adjustments with no luck, but then one day I breakthrough and magic begins to happen again and it starts to rain.
I was in a dry spell for a while in signing new clients and expanding my business. It felt like I was in a desert. Then the heavens opened up and everything began to expand again.
Focus on what you control and the rest will take care of itself. Trust the process. It's always working for you, never against you.
If you’ve followed me for any length of time you know that the thing I dread the most is being cold. Even worse than cold is being cold and wet.
One of my worst memories as a human is being cold and soaked with no way to get warm or dry.
We have 4 pets: Wes and Finn are Cavalier King Charles Spaniels, and Nova and Latte are cats. We really love our pets and they are like royalty around our home; they get lots of love and affection.
I spent 43 years of my life exhausting myself and taking the path of most resistance. I made things hard when they were easy, and I thought struggle and stress were just part of life.
I've since learned that life is not hard - we make it hard. Of course there are challenges, but challenges are only hard if we expect life to be without turbulence. If we resist the challenges life is harder than it needs to be. If we embrace the challenges as part of the fun and adventure of life, then we begin to love life more.
My animals take time to relax, play, and seek love every day. They are the model for living the good life; don't allow struggle and stress to consume you, and take time to enjoy the journey more.
It's ok to enjoy life.
Be back soon!
Think about this...
A humble person cannot be embarrassed. I'm feeling some embarrassment and shame, so I'm posting this to make it public, and to let it go so that I can grow.
Due to some circumstances it's been about 3 weeks since I've run. I was still lifting, but my running basically stopped while I tended to those circumstances. At times I made the conscious choice to not run when I could have, so I assume full responsibility for the pause.
Anyway, I was running 3-4 times per week, and I'd run 4-5 miles and average right around 8 minutes per mile. Today I ran and I finished at 8:43 minutes per mile. Out of embarrassment my mind immediately told me not to tell anyone. Shame. Pure shame. So I'm posting so that I can feel the shame and let it go. There's no reason to feel shame, but I do... so I'm choosing to grow through it.
And that's how we grow in emotional courage - feel what we don't want to feel so that we become more emotionally courageous and expand our emotional container. Today I'm more proud of this post than my run. And I would suspect that through this pace my physical container will become healthier too!
Remember, a humble person cannot be embarrassed. If you feel embarrassment let it go! Embarrassment will keep you small!
When it's time to create, it's time. For decades I felt this pressure inside of me and I didn't understand it. When that pressure would increase I would eat more, work more, drink more, or even look to relieve it sexual through being a super-demanding husband to my wife.
The pressure was constant and I didn't understand it.
Finally I realized that this pressure is creativity inside of me trying to materialize. And whenever it is time to create, it's time.
I've felt that pressure lately so I've been creating like mad. My latest creation is this new eBook - Expanding Your Container.
We are all a container with a finite capacity for success, happiness, and freedom. In order to expand these you don't need to work harder - you need to become more by increasing your performance in 7 areas of life.
In my new eBook I guide you through this process, the same process I used to move from an abusive 300 pound suicidal, alcoholic to a healthy and loving international coach, speaker, and author.
When you feel the pressure build understand that there's something ready to be born from you. It's up to you to figure out what that is!
I wake up, energy flows through my body, my eyes open, and I know I'm fully awake. It's happened every morning that I've been alive. What's so special about today?
This time I went to bed at 9pm when I was tired (like usual), and 11:35pm my body alarm went off. I don't set a real alarm. I haven't set a real alarm in years. I've learned to fully trust my body alarm - when it's ready to get up and learn, create, and start the day it tells me.
So this morning I slept for 2-1/2 hours. I'll take a 20 minute nap this afternoon like normal. But I'm awake and creating. Some days my body needs 9 hours, some days 5, some days 2-1/2. But I've learned to not fight my body. It knows what it needs. There are 5 critical elements of physical health and the acronym to understand the order of importance is OWNER:
So when I take care of myself I get the proper rest I need even in 2-1/2 hours.
Take care of yourself, then trust body. You have everything you need already inside of you - we just need to learn how to engage and trust it!
Yesterday one of my mastermind students sent me this image and said it reminded him of me. I gotta admit that sometimes I go through a bit of an identity crisis because I feel all loving and peaceful to my core, but there's also a part of me that loves my ability to scrap and fight. I feel like I had to fight my way through life, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I can handle a good scrap. And needing to fight all the time led me to enjoy peace. I enjoy knowing that I don't need to fight my way through life - that I was attracting it all because of my beliefs.
Fast forward, and I have fallen in love with being a peaceful warrior - and I've learned that the best way to be fully at peace in the world is to have complete faith and trust that you can handle conflict and aggression and win. So I love both sides of me... the peaceful Buddha and the aggressive militant. But I've certainly struggled with this.
We are always a blend and mix of archetypes, not one. And this serves a greater purpose. A different mastermind student said this about me: “I wanted you to kick my ass and get me out of my funk, not because you loved me. I can hug myself. What connects me to you is that. It’s not the lovey-dovey. We connected because you have an edge, because you’re authentic. So whoever you are... be that. The right people will love you.
And when you have an identity crisis, accept ALL of you... even the parts that conflict with each other. There's purpose to all of it. We're here to embrace it all. Do you accept your shadow and your darkness? When you do you'll find everything you're looking for outside of you.
Talk to you again soon!
Yesterday I recorded a new video about casting your vision for 2021. I would encourage you to focus on three areas of your life - your health, career and wealth creation through your business, and in your relationships.
In order to have it all we first need to decide to have it all, then we can believe it into action! Here's my new video. At the end I again encourage you to download the eBook titled Life By Design that I use in all of my private coaching relationships and in my mastermind. I hope this helps create massive results for you in 2021!
I'll be back soon!
This week my wife Angie and I were diagnosed with the flu and bronchitis. No covid for us, thank God!
Anyway, I've felt achy, exhausted, and super lethargic...
But I'm staying hydrated, feeding myself healthy nutrition, and still getting in a lift each day. My routine and energy level might not be the same, but I feel it's more critical than ever to honor my body and do things to drive healing.
In the past I would have made excuses. Now I make more powerful commitments. The work never ends. My body still deserves the very best I can give it - so there are no days off from giving it what it needs to thrive - O.W.N.E.R. - oxygen, water, nutrition, exercise, and rest.
There's never a day off when you care for your body like it's the only one you have, because it is!
Be your very best!
Each Wednesday morning at 8am central my Elite Mastermind meets. This morning we met for the first time in 2021, and I can't even begin to share how impactful it is to be part of a community of like-minded people who share similar ambitions and values, and who want to live the journey with others.
We challenge each other, celebrate each other, and encourage each other. It truly is humbling leading and participating in this group.
Here's who we are: We are small business owners who want freedom in every aspect of life - time freedom, financial freedom, and the freedom to fully express who we are in the world.
My primary business objective in 2021 is to grow this group - because the impact is has on the members has been truly remarkable. This is my favorite single meeting of the entire week!
I hope you all had a safe and amazing New Year celebration!
It's the first day of the new year, and I am contemplating my life. I am blessed that my closest friend just happens to be the most successful person I know. You become who you hang out with, right?
He shared an exercise that he does, and that's to create a visual image of what he's looking to create, and the life he wants to lead. He learned this technique from a guy named T. Harv Eker, who also wrote a great book titled The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind. In that book T. Harv says (paraphrasing) that there are some uncool things that most millionaires do to create wealth, and he asks would you rather be cool and broke, or uncool and wealthy? He makes a great point.
T. Harv has amassed a fortune by getting clear about what he wanted to create, and he uses this exercise to help! I've included my 2021 visual vision here! This is now posted above my sink in my master bath, so I see it multiple times a day - specifically when I wake up and before I go to sleep!
I choose to be uncool and wealthy. How about you?
Happy New Year! Let's do big things!
I consume massive quantities and volumes of books and audiobooks. Today I began a new one. I've had this one in my pocket for a while, and today I pulled the trigger. My gosh...
Let me explain what self-mastery means to me. Self-mastery means mastering my own physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual path so that my life impacts the world in the most powerful, needle-moving way. I feel that if I'm not the most powerful version of myself - if I don't grow to my fullest potential, then how can I possible impact the world in the most powerful and meaningful way.
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius approaches self-mastery from a stoic perspective - such as how can I be the master of myself if I can't control my response - what I do control - to things I do not control such as any outcome? How can I be of most usefulness if I am not fully and shamelessly utilizing all of my talents and gifts? How can I be of most usefulness to my family if my decisions and actions create struggle in their lives?
This one has been a gem so far! I'm going to go for a run today and this is certainly a book that will keep me focused and driven.
My wife and I used to exchange gifts on Christmas, and our gift-giving was based on expectations - both spoken and unspoken. Now we simply drop our expectations of the other and we commit to L.O.V.E. each other - not to expect anything from each other.
In case you don't remember, L.O.V.E. stands for Letting Others Voluntarily Evolve.
We've learned that when we don't expect, we appreciate a whole lot more, and we've realized that when we give it's because of real love, not because of expectations.
We used to spend hundreds, even thousands, on each other. Not anymore. We spend time and love on each other.
And I got this Buddha statue! I did not ask for it, I did not expect it, and I was full of appreciation when I opened it. That's what makes it so special.
Is your relationship based on expectation or L.O.V.E? It really makes a big difference!
Be back soon!
This week a new private client signed with me. Together we'll be building a coaching business for her that looks, feels, sounds, and behaves like her truest nature. We will understand who she connects with the most, how she can help them and the problem she can help them solve the most, and then begin to connect with them and offer support.
She's ready to move forward and share her deepest gifts and talents in the world. After we get momentum in her business we will begin to focus on integrating her business into her life... to attain time freedom, financial free, and building a life which will allow her to be the very fully expression of who she is and what she desires most.
In response to sealing the agreement with her I went into action to be the most effective and efficient support for her and the journey. I created this new workbook - and I already had all of the content in various places. I create massive amounts of content, and I always look for ways to make the journey for others easier.
So now we get started. This is the fun part for me. I get to watch another person get clear on what they want and begin the process of creating a brand new life. How can that not be magical?
Merry Christmas Eve! Talk soon,
I'm deeply feeling a powerful desire for freedom in all aspects of my life. Yesterday I was inspired to record and publish this video. It always helps me to get really clear with a powerful message within me, then as soon as I'm clear I love to document and share the message.
I hope this one connects with you. It sure lights up my soul.
If you enjoy it please comment, like, and share it, and while you're there subscribe to my channel to help me expand my reach!
When I began my journey I was close to 300 pounds, over 40% body fat, and consuming massive amounts of food and alcohol. Needless to say I couldn't even breathe tying my shoes and I struggled to even function during the day.
When I began daily exercise and eating more nutritious food, it only took me so far. I probably lost somewhere around 60 - 70 pounds, and I was still in the 215-220 range, and home for me is somewhere between 185-190 pounds, and about 18% body fat. I had reached a plateau, and I had exhausted all my knowledge about fitness and nutrition.
That's when this book found me. Holy crap! Here's what I learned:
The nutrition and exercise our bodies require depend heavily on our blood type. Each blood type has a specific chemistry, and the foods we eat either positively or negatively impact our internal chemistry, and our the chemistry of our stomach contains the ability to break down foods based on our blood type. As I integrated the teachings of this book into my diet, fat fell off, my fitness improved, my energy soared, and I am achieving results like never before. Also, our blood type determines what physical activity helps us manage stress most effectively. I wouldn't have guessed.
My blood type is A+, so my body is best served through a mostly vegetarian diet based on plant-based nutrition, with a little fish, chicken, and turkey thrown in. The beef, wheat, and dairy I was consuming was absolutely destroying my body. I can FEEL the difference. Moderate exercise and meditation helps me manage stress.
Today I weighed in at 194.5 and approximately 20% body fat (unscientific method). I feel like a different human being.
Check out Eat Right 4 Your Type by Dr. Peter J. D'Adamo and see for yourself. I trust myself, my results, and how I feel more than anyone else - and I'm not a doctor. But do what you think is right for you. Check with a doctor if you decide that's the best for you. Bottom line is if you're not healthy... what else do you have?
Never settle for less than you deserve... and you deserve EVERYTHING!
I hope this helps you as much as it has helped me.
I finished up the weekend with my longest run since September, and even though I stretched it out I still shaved 3 seconds per mile off since my last run. I wanted to stretch myself today... because why not?
It was also 30 degrees when I started my run today. I stopped running outside in the winter after I left the Marine Corps in 1997. I've always hated running in the cold. But I vowed to run outside at least once a week all the way through the winter, regardless the conditions.
Time to grow. And comfort is the enemy of growth!
Be back later!
During the week I coach, speak, hold prospect calls, and sprinkle in some business meetings with my team.
Then there's time with my wife, and the very scarce time with my teenage girls when they're feeling generous.
On the weekends the time with the family remains the same, but my business focus shifts to creation. I create during the week when inspiration calls, but on the weekend I dive in even harder on creating content and new ways to connect with my tribe and community.
This picture is a snapshot of the basic creation-station I have set up in my basement. It's not fancy. It's the basic equipment required to create audio and video content, the workbooks, eBooks, email campaigns, and anything else that I'm inspired to create.
It's not much, but it connects me with the world. I once thought that I needed advanced equipment to create powerful content. Now I see that I was just hiding behind an excuse. The basics work. So I serve from that place. My content has helped people in the U.S., U.K., Canada, and even India. I desire to expand the impact I'm making!
If you haven't checked out my YouTube channel, connect with it here and subscribe to help me reach even more people! Maybe it will help you too!
Talk to you soon!
This morning I woke up at 12:30am. My body and mind were up and ready to go. I don't force myself to sleep or stay awake regardless of the time of day. When my body and mind are ready to go, I go. When they're ready to sleep, I sleep. Sometimes I take 2 or 3 short naps per day.
I've realized that there's always a reason that my body and mind wake up super early. I'm a creative person by nature, and usually when I'm up early there's something that needs to be created.
This morning it was this stool. This three-legged stool. Lately I've been noodling on what success and happiness means to me, and this stool sums it up. These three "freedom legs" enable success and happiness for me.
When I have full control of my time, when I'm not limited by finances, and when I'm able to fully be myself without restriction I feel successful and happy. Take away one of those legs, and it seems like I shift gears to regain my balance in these dimensions.
I hope this helps. It sure helped me. Now it's time to share it so it helps more people!
There was a time that I dreaded running in the cold. I hated how my lungs felt, how my skin hurt, and how I would cough hard and long afterwards.
When I would think about running in the cold my mind made it worse than it actually is. I've learned to appreciate running, regardless the weather. The hotter or the colder it is, the bigger challenge and reward.
Today it was 30 degrees F. I'm bald and my head and my ears hurt for the first mile. Once they were numb the run was much easier.
I finished my planned run today. I look for accomplishments, no matter how big or little. They're everywhere when we're open to winning.
See you soon!
Tonight I'm building this VIP page.
Yes. I'm building this page to show you my life. I want us to experience this life together so that we can grow together. Thanks for being on this ride with me. I'm happy you're here!
Every Friday my bride and I spend the day together. We call this Fri-date. We have conflicting priorities on every other day of the week, so we set aside Friday for ourselves.
Pretty low key Fri-date today, considering we just got back from a 3 day getaway. Just some Christmas shopping on Main Street St. Charles, Missouri (our home). We're doing as much to support local small business as possible this season. Fri-date doesn’t have to be extravagant, as long as we are together.
This picture is from our last night in Eureka Springs. During our time away Angie and I didn't rush, create an agenda, push to remain active at all times, eat and/or drink ourselves to death, or argue at all. We exercised daily, ate nutritiously, and carried out our business meetings as planned.
We basically lived the same life we live at home on vacation - because we love the life we've created and the daily activities and choices we make. Why would we change anything except the scenery we get to experience?
We're both excited to get home to our children and our pets!
Just because I'm away from home doesn't mean I'm going to take days off. These are my workout steps for the next few days.
This is my current view. Just sitting on a couch in the lobby of our hotel, drinking a cup of coffee. No one else is awake. I’m just listening to an audiobook and doing some deep breathing and contemplating how much fun Angie and I had yesterday driving here and exploring. The coffee is cold and leftover from yesterday, it’s a little chilly in the lobby. It’s not my morning routine, but it’s a peaceful and perfect morning nonetheless.
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